Relationship Tips: The Best Times To Have Sex And Why

Sure, most guys will take sex whenever they can get it. But there’s one time of day that guys really, truly crave it. “Many men are at their horniest first thing in the morning,” says sex therapist Arlene Goldman. And while you may feel more like Megan Mullally than Megan Fox when that alarm goes off, getting it on in the a.m. can be amazing for you too. We asked top experts to explain why the hour after he first wakes up is so hot for him and suggest a few tricks for making it just as satisfying than sex after dark.

 

Blame Testosterone

There’s a biological reason that men are so revved up for sex after a night’s sleep. “That’s when testosterone levels peak,” says Harry Fisch, MD, “and testosterone is a leading contributor to sexual feelings in men.” Beyond that, most men wake up with a giant breakfast sausage between their legs because blood circulation to the penis increases overnight. But a guy doesn’t look down and think Oh, that’s just my junk doing its thing. He sees an erection and wants to put it to use instead of letting it, er, deflate.

 

Why You Should Wake and Quake

Between stinky breath and hair that’s flying in 10 directions, sex is probably the furthest thing from your mind in the morning, but it does have its benefits. “When a man has higher testosterone and is well-rested, he has more energy during sex,” says Goldman. “That energy will help him last longer.” The key is to figure out ways to banish those unsexy I-just-woke-up feelings so that you can enjoy it. “Freshening up a bit will make you more alert and ready to get in the mood,” says Goldman. Before the action starts, tell him you’re going to give him 30 seconds to get ready for some mind-blowing sex, then slip into the bathroom to take care of whatever it is that’s making you feel unfoxy.

 

Morning Moves to Try

Just because he has lots of energy for sex doesn’t mean you do. So opt for positions that are easy but still hit all the right spots. “Spooning is an ideal a.m. position,” says sex counselor Trina Read. “Many people sleep in this position, so he can just reach around to fondle your breasts.” Or try this: Have him lie on his side, facing you. Then lie on your back with your legs over his hips and have him enter you. “Your bodies will form a ‘t’ shape, and this position is nice if you haven’t brushed your teeth yet because you aren’t all up in each other’s faces,” says Read. Bonus: It puts him at the perfect angle to hit your G-spot. Now that’s what we call a good morning.